The face of China adoption is changing.
I took some time Sunday to catch up on reading my favorite blogs. I happened on a real gem by Sandra at Our China Blessings. She talks about Searching for Connection -- how both Sandra and her 13 year old newly adopted daughter went to a meeting of Families with Children from China (FCC) searching for connection.
Sadly, they left the meeting still searching.
Seems to me that most support organizations for Chinese adoptive families cater to families who adopted healthy infant or toddler girls through the non-special needs program. Not a lot of boys. Not a lot of older children who still speak Chinese and are struggling with cultural adjustment. Not a lot of special needs.
I'm not criticizing Families with Children from China. Organizations like FCC meet a real need for families who adopt baby girls from China. And in the past, that covered almost all China adoptions. What a gift for those little girls to grow up with peers who look like them and with other families that resemble their families.
But the face of China adoption is changing, and more and more of us are parenting adopted kids who are older, or who are boys, or who have disabilities. One size doesn't fit all anymore.
Where do families who choose Older Child Adoption go for support?
Most of us go online. But it sure would be nice to find support in person.
I confess I've never tried FCC in my area. I've asked about it. My main question was, "Are there any adopted Chinese boys?" The person I asked could maybe remember meeting one. At the time, it didn't seem like that would really meet our needs, so I didn't pursue it further. Maybe if more of us attended the culture clubs and camps, the dynamics would change naturally. Maybe the first step is up to us. I think these groups naturally tailor their programs to the needs of their members.
Take a minute and head over to Sandra's blog to read her beautifully written story of their search for real life connection in the adoption world.
And take a moment to share here about how you are connecting with other adoptive families in real life. How hard do you work to make this happen? How would you advise those of us who are still searching? Leave a comment! Your experience and perspective will be a blessing to other parents who stop by Death by Great Wall, looking for info on older child adoption.
Shared at The Long Road to China.